Fish 3 - starting to smell

Once again, mom backs down and makes excuses.

I sent her the emails.

"you are right. i cannot change her and in all probability she will not
change. Life does give all of us more insight, it does give us more just
plain living to learn from-or not.
All i can say is i tried to speak to her today without letting on that i
knew more than i did.
i said a lot. I said an awful lot about her behavior and how she treats you.
etc. she does listen- and with time she does try. as we said before- she had
been different. i really and truly believe she went nuts with the stress of
the stupid dog, her not sleeping and being a mother. i am making excuses- i
do it for everybody.
she is not perfect but she is my child. i love her. i love you. i want my
family. i am selfish. i never had a real sister. you may never either- but you have a
sister.
she was mean to you- aunt barbara was mean to me- dad was mean to his
sisters- give her that- it is not evil- it is stupid jealousy- mean rotten-
and not evolved enough.
she cannot treat you badly any longer- and you should not take it. you called
her on it. good. keep it up. but i want my family - all i have is you both.
i took dad back and forgave an awful lot.
i don't want you to be the one to have to mend this fence.
this is not about fish- it is about differences in lifestyles- and thinking-
she has to accept you and respect you- and you have to accept she is
different- flawed whatever-
let time pass- time heals- it really does-
i love you and i am so sorry for this- i wish all of this was different- mom"

This is why nothing ever changes. No one is held accountable for what they do wrong as long as there is an excuse to back them up.

I hate this.